Yun sent me this link: http://www.colinandyenyen.com/wordpress/paved-with-good-intentions/
which I spent a good one hour plus reading, and digesting
(amidst checking facebook and catching up on world news)
which I spent a good one hour plus reading, and digesting
(amidst checking facebook and catching up on world news)
and if you don't have that much time to read,
here's something I picked out from colin and yenyen.
"Consider these 2 stories. Which is closer to yours?
You wake up everyday and work from Monday to Friday, and often, Saturday too. If you finish work early, you and your partner go to your parents’ place for dinner and see your child for a few hours.
If you work late, you buy a packet of char kway teow from the hawker centre but eat it at home because it’s too warm to eat there. You’re not crazy about the job but you know that if you keep at it, you can afford a car in 3 years’ time, and in 5 years’ time, buy a condo close to the primary school you want to send your kid to. Your conversations with people are either for the purpose of networking, work, or for familial obligations you cannot avoid.
On weekends, you play golf with your friends at your country club or watch a movie with your partner. Once a year, you go on a ten day vacation to New York, London, or Paris, and when your children are big enough, Disneyland.
Alternatively, you wake up and you have no idea what is going to happen today, tomorrow, 6 months or a year later. Ironically, because of this uncertainty, all possibilities exist for you.
You can be the Prime Minister of Singapore, you can make a movie, you can cook a meal you have never cooked before, eat at a place you have never eaten before, you can color your hair red, you can skip instead of walk, you can volunteer at the school you have always wanted to volunteer at, you can write a book, or you can have a baby even though you don’t have a maid.
You have conversations with people who set your heart palpitating and your mind on fire. Your weekday is not so different from your weekend because everyday you are thinking, creating, and more important, imagining.
Most of us recognize the first story and its pursuit of the 5 Cs of “cash, condo, car, country club, credit card.”
It is the Plan, which imposes a conclusion on you, and you work in order to make all the pieces fit. A bus stop advertisement I saw recently said it best: “We spend all our youth chasing money, and when we attain it, we spend all our money chasing youth.”
A Dream, on the other hand, carries you on its wings to worlds that your heart and mind have never known."
Yun commented I had gotten out of the Singapore mould and am starting to live my dream.
Perhaps, to a certain extent.
I would have been perfectly satisfied going forward with the Singapore Plan.
Those were the stuff me and mr goh used to discuss.
It is an enviable plan if all pieces of the jigsaw fit.
But I had been greedy and I wanted more.
I didn't want to be kept in.
so I made the choice to move to Hong Kong. I want to see what other places have to offer me,
and how much further I can push myself
so I made the choice to move to Hong Kong. I want to see what other places have to offer me,
and how much further I can push myself
My new job allowed me to do more thinking,
we try to be creative and innovative.
I wake up every morning, knowing the stuff I have to get done,
and not knowing the other ad hoc stuff which needs to get done.
There is a wee bit of uncertainty and element of surprise.
I have conversations with people who make me think, and laugh,
and set my heart racing.
Perhaps I'm now transiting between the first scenario to the second.
I still think about the first scenario sometimes... it's such a comfort zone.
I also start to wonder
if I'm just making myself to believe that I'm pursuing my dreams;
if I'm just making myself to believe that I'm pursuing my dreams;
when in fact, I'm still following the blueprint,
just in a different city, with different characters.
just in a different city, with different characters.
There is only so much people can plan,
but a lot more which we can dream about.
but a lot more which we can dream about.
It's not easy to live your dream;
but we all try, at least.
but we all try, at least.
